frustration

I have this friend; and she has early detection breast cancer.  I have known her since high school, and that was a long time ago.

She is probably going to die.  Horribly.  Screaming.  Spitting and peeing blood, etcetera.  It will be awful, and she thinks that she's got it covered.

It is early enough for safe treatment, and it is a slow growing mass (at the moment), but she is going to treat it "holistically" and not with any conventional treatments.  She is convinced that the treatments will kill her; and that meditation and the power of positive thought... will prevail.

She has been paying this quack "Ayurvedic" practitioner, who has been taking her money for a long time... and she believes. Except... she's not getting enough sleep; she's not eating healthy foods; and she definitely isn't in a mindset where her powers of constructive conciousness can prevail.   In other words, she is fucking delusional.  I blame it on her long term denial of the reality of life, but there is no way I can reach her.  And I care what happens...

And, i have to accept it.

Hope once risen, then dashed.

I'm not talking about the election, dammit.  That went better than expected.
Yay.  O for another 4 years, and maybe we get out of this mess.

No, I'm upset because I've got signs that the newest acquisition of the feminine persuasion... is a work in progress; and I just hit a major fracking pothole.  I don't want and need to fix another human, and I'm definitely not sure what to do about what I just experienced.

That's life.  If it was easy... anyone could do it without fucking up.  Now I can either be judgemental, or try to help her evolve.  Either way, it's a win-lose strategy; because it's not a shrink-wrapped ready-to-consume relationship that doesn't have major baggage.  Crap.

I shouldn't be surprised.  She's definitely worth pursuing... but there are definite road-signs that there's problems with the road.

As if I was perfect?

Ghosts are the memories of Past Regrets

every so often...
something happens which elicits a gut-emotional response.
I don't plan for it; it's just there.

Back in 1990(ish); my then about-to-be wife... sang to me in a club.  She had an amazing voice; professional quality and the chops to prove it.

I remember her looking at me, singing "When you call my name, ... " by Madonna
(http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Like-A-Prayer-lyrics-Madonna/)
and everyone around me seemed to be listening.  (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79fzeNUqQbQ)

She was *that* good.
Her other favorite (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/bettemidler/windbeneathmywings.html)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9ZMDPf9hZw

we didn't last.

I did something stupid (didn't understand her needs)

She did something stupider.  (It's amazing how much talent was rolled up in one tall blond);  and...
we got divorced.

I haven't seen her since.

Times like these, I still feel like I should have done something different.

I've just met somebody interesting.  Again.

I hope I just don't screw it up.

wow...

All of a sudden, I have to change accounts to post on this blog.  Apparently Google has decided that I must join everything to everything... and I've kept this place private, so only a select few can read.  Also, it allows me to say things that I otherwise might feel compelled to edit more severely.  (Who's kidding who?  I edit EVERYTHING I write).

But... just saying... it's now harder to do what was once easy.

(next post follows)

Taxes... revisted

I just left off my bookkeeper; we finished my taxes and submitted them to my accountant.

I'm done.  Only slightly later than expected. (it's October, after all!)

NOT next year.

Inside every Windows 8 is a Windows 7 w/out bugs... trying to get out.

I've got W8 running on a couple laptops.  I'm guessing that they'd run MUCH better with more memory; but the Metro interface just doesn't do it for me.  Maybe if I had a tablet with touchscreen...

ARRGH! I hate computer (users) (Work! (Duh Valley))

Morning starts:
1. Cannot connect Domain Controller 2 to the SonicWall (gateway device).
Huh?
2. PANIC! EMERGENCY! All Phones are down in the call center; Internet follows. (VOIP)
(the main reason they pay my rate)...
3. Boss gets notified, logs in from Israel (vacationing!); other consultant logs in remotely also.
Me: "Hey -- wayy to many blinky lights on the switch stack. Looks like a packet storm, WTF?"
Consultant: "I've seen that when you've looped back a switch".
Boss: "Do something! " << MUCH doing. >>
Much furor and way too many cooks... Nada.
4. $$$ being lost in large numbers (it's a call-center)
5. Executives send everybody home. NO point, only two hours left in the work-day, and it isn't going anywhere.
6. Sonicwall support technician says, "Are you sure you haven't got a physical wiring issue?"
7. I unplug cables from the network.
AHA!
8. Upstairs took a cable from the local switch... plugged it into the phone. Phone ALREADY has a cable plugged into it.
*** Instant loop back***
9. UNPLUG CABLE.
Going home...

work is good to have. ANY WORK