Stress is seeing stupid *everywhere* (West SFV)

So, two days ago (plus) my guest let my tomcat out of the condo. No surprise, he's stealthy and she's not situationally aware. However, I can't seem to let go of the idea that "it's her fault"... even though it really isn't.
I tried to coax him back later... about 2-3 am when he was having a discussion with another Tom about territory right in front of my door. I grabbed him, and he took exception (no surprise, I didn't have a good purchase).

His GF climbed the wall in the atrium later that night, and I'm now down two cats.

But, they're doing construction work during the day, and I haven't seen him or her since.

Fuck.