mis-communication, my favorite.

So, finally talked to the *absent* roommate; turns out she thought I said she didn't have to pay rent, and I thought I told her that I wouldn't kick her out (but assumed that she'd still try to pay it)...

And it just goes wrong from there.

Now I'm out 9 weeks (two months plus) and she's upset... and I'm upset... and I am now really screwed for immediate cash.  No surprise.

This one is on me.

I also mentioned that I think she's doing Meth again, and that of course went over well.

The hits just keep coming.

Unreality, it just spins

So talking with the one roommate over the phone early this evening as I was commuting back from a class elsewhere (about an hour commute); I get yet another sugar coated surprise.

First, she tells me that she had a really great time with her son whom she visited (which I think is great), then acknowledges that we need to talk and we agree on this weekend; because we have to be sober and because I'm booked until Friday afternoon when I proctor the class I'm auditing.

She tells me that she is going to sue our mutual "friend" for defamation of character which she characterizes as a felony; it isn't, as far as I can tell it's a civil matter unless some other rules which I have not researched apply. See link1. And civil matters have to show injury, and if you wish monetary compensation you have to show losses.  (Or did I get that wrong? I have to check)...

Great.  Now she is on tilt.

So the surprise...

She "reviewed" the amount of work that she has "done" for the house, and determined that I probably owe her money.  I am speechless.  Our agreement was she paid rent, and contributed about $150-200 a month in cleaning effort... and anything else she did was because she insisted.  (It helps her with stress to have projects to do, never mind whether I agreed to them or not)...
And I offered to drive her (the agreement was she'd cover gas) for 5 trips to south orange county and back that I can document.  So who's time is worth more?

I told her I would not kick her out over rent, but this is not what I agreed to...

She hasn't paid rent since 8 weeks ago as of now, owes just under $800 (8 weeks minus a little), and is disregarding the $330 in direct loan expenses (hair colour, vision checkup, cigarettes, her cellphone bill and she even talked me into buying her beverages..).

I'm not including the emergency room visit ($140), the followup doctor's visits  to inspect and later remove stitches,  or the damn wusthof solingen classic 8 inch kitchen knife  (about $159 discounted) that the local police department "lost".

I figure it almost $1400... if I count the incident... which is more than she's ever made doing her thing since I have known her.  And I'm not her boyfriend/toy or client...  (and all I really asked her for was the $300 -- because I figure she's good for about that much maybe).

And if I do anything at all, it will be "my fault".

splendid.

What the F???

So [a month ago], after two plus weeks of mostly incommunicado with a side of "but we are still friends, I love you"...  roommate pops up on text and says that since she's not in a position to pay rent, she's moving out. But not until June 1rst, which means she's not paying rent for ...

Like wow.

Not to mention the money she borrowed.

I still don't want her to move out; because she's still interesting to have around; but she's right... I don't completely trust her.  Haven't in fact since she put me into the emergency room with two pretty good cuts and a bite.  Not to mention, when she's drunk she's a real hoot...  As in crazy homicidal maniac...

I'm left with:  a. just eat weeks of rent plus 300 or so of loaned money that I can't afford, and wait patiently for the recompense that isn't ever going to come...   --- because I know where this trainwreck is headed.

As long as she hangs out at CrazyTrain / MethHouse Manor, this is going to get worse.

Yay.

No good solutions.