It's a disease...

I'm only going to be slightly sarcastic here; an alcoholic cannot *help* what they are, it's a disease and they don't get a pass like the rest of us who don't need to drink (insert whatever variation on "stuck in the behaviour" you want)...

And... Abused people don't get fixed, you can't do anything for them except offer support and stay out of the way (not adding more roadblocks); because YOU CANNOT FIX PEOPLE.,  THEY EITHER FIX THEMSELVES OR NOT.

I'll say it again.  You cannot fix anyone.  If they don't do it themselves, it won't happen.  You can contain the damage by not being there, that's all.

TANSTAFFL revisted

I hate it when my friends are right, and I'm proven wrong...

Especially when I have such personal hopes.

Oh well.  It ain't life if there are no bumps in the road.

I am trying to help a new friend (and gf), and it's proving difficult.  You can't change someone, they either are who they are... or they modify on their own.  All you can do is not get in the way.

Period.

I just wish I could... just this once... shine a light that gets seen.